Love is Love With Pride

Aging in Place Jun 23, 2021
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Through the dedication and love of many people across generations and around the globe, in 2015, the US Supreme Court ruled in Obergefell v. Hodges “that the fundamental right to marry is guaranteed to same-sex couples by both the Due Process Clause and the Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution and thus required that all US states and territories recognize the marriages of same-sex couples on the same terms and conditions as the marriages of opposite-sex couples. For many couples who had been living together for decades, they were finally afforded the same privileges as other couples. While the numbers of sexual and gender minority older adults are growing rapidly, they remain a largely invisible segment of the older adult population.

The Aging with Pride: National Health, Aging, and Sexuality/Gender Study is the first federally funded study addressing aging among LGBTQ older adults throughout the United States. An estimated 3% of U.S. adults aged 50 years and older self-identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender on public health surveys, representing about three million adults.   However, as tolerance and understanding become more open and laws are changing, it is the hope that older adults in the LGBTQ segment of the population feel safer and more open to expressing their love safely and without judgment.

Caring For LGBTQ Older Adults

Strong communities are essential for aging well and it is up to us as a community to make sure that diversity is welcome and that all people feel they can age in a strong community with the support they need to age gracefully. For many LGBT older adults this is a more trying experience than for others.

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LGBT Perceptions On Aging

According to a study done in 2014 by The National Resource Center on LGBT Aging, there is a lot more worry about aging for the LGBT community.

  • One in two (51%) LGBT older people is very or extremely concerned about “having enough money to live on,” as compared to 36% of non-LGBT people.
  • One in three (32%) LGBT older people is very or extremely concerned about “being lonely and growing old alone,” as compared to 19% of non-LGBT people.
  • 43% percent of LGBT older people who are single and 40% of LGBT older people in their 60s and 70s say their healthcare providers don’t know their sexual orientations.
  • ⅔ of transgender adults (65%) feel that there will be limited access to healthcare as they grow older.
  • Forty-two percent of LGBT older people are very or extremely concerned that they will outlive the money they have saved for retirement, as compared to 25% of non-LGBT people.
  • 44% of LGBT older people are very or extremely concerned that they will have to work well beyond retirement age in order to have enough money to live on, as compared to 26% of non-LGBT people.
  • 1 in 4 LGBT older people and 1 in 3 transgender older people fear that volunteer activities will not be open to them at an older age if their sexual orientation or gender identities become known.
  • 40% of LGBT older people say their support networks have become smaller over time, as compared to 27% of non-LGBT older people.
  • About one in three (34%) LGBT older people live alone, as compared to 21% of non-LGBT people

Leading Change

Throughout history, many brave individuals have paved a path to change. As we celebrate pride month, it’s important to consider leaders in shaping positive change both past and present, so that we can see what we are doing in our own communities to help foster inclusion and diversity.

Making Relationships Work

As you look to foster relationships both current and in the future, consider some key tips from Todd Creager. Todd Creager is a marriage and sex therapist who helps couples create loving and passionate long-term relationships. He is the author of The Long, Hot Marriage, Love, Sex and Karaoke, and 52 Ways to Ignite Your Love Life. He has an e-book titled The Little Black Book of Infidelity which is an entire self-improvement program to help heal from infidelity. His most recent online program is Divorce-Proof Your Marriage. He has a private practice in Huntington Beach, CA, and has been helping couples and individuals for 34 years in person and virtually. He has been a guest on many radio and TV shows and is a professor at USC.

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